On Merciless Parents by W. D.

            Do you love your parents? What a silly question!! We think that all parents are full of tenderness and love from the moment they give birth to a new soul and are ready to sacrifice their lives for their children. But many persons are cursed with merciless parents who own that harsh style in teaching their children. You may imagine them shouting or forbidding them from certain activities as a punishment. But what about torturing them physically and psychologically? Just the thought makes you shiver. Unfortunately, merciless parents do exist and in many ways.

            The first type of cruel parents are those who use a bad way of speaking with their children that affects them psychologically. I remember my neighbor whose mother treat her with a threatening way. I could hear easily their fights and voices around. The mother uses special sentences that hurt the girl's feelings and make her afraid before even getting wrong, she had never supported her or show love in any of her words. One of her popular says :"Refuse to obey me and I will kill you".. or  "I said no, idiot, so do not do it or you know what can I do". Such words, not only make the girl weak to face anything but encourages her to lie to avoid the punishment and run away from risks and new thoughts to escape from life lessons, although they will be badly forced on her.

            Another kind of parents that surprised me are those of a classmate's friend who use the hitting style. One time, this young friend failed the exams and started crying and shivering . I thought her reaction was exaggerated, but she wasn't afraid of the meaning of failure itself because she can make more efforts and succeed again, but of her parents. They came to school and started shouting at her, "You should not come to school but go to a zoo instead...". And the worse is coming, beside insulting her, they started hitting her angrily and continued until she fell down on the floor. It was the terrible behavior I have ever seen. After that, the girl became so desperate, always sitting alone, and shivering never leaves her.

            But the most merciless parents are those who uses their children as beggars like the ones in the neighboring city. They send them to beg for money on the streets because their fat ugly father with frightening looks is too lazy to get a job. Instead, he is busy holding a thick whip and waiting someone to throw his anger on him. Not just that, he asked for a specific amount of money to be served at the end of the day or the children will be hit violently. This has driven them to steal and do whatever it takes to make  their work done. They became dangerous to the level of  killing someone just for money. Poor little souls.

            Running away from punishments, hurting words and pain, children were obliged to follow the strict rules and be obedient for any single order even if it is not the right thing. They became too weak to face life because they were never encouraged to resolve their own conflicts with confidence. They can easily fall at the first hole. Eventually, they have learned nothing. Parents should never say or do anything without considering the effects of their behavior on their children. Democracy is the best way to deal with them, No shouts, No violence. Discussions are the key to put parents and children on the right track of life, in the present and future one. 

On Merciless Parents by Mariam A.

    Being a parent can be one of the most rewarding and fulfilling experiences in life. And, parenting is a big event that must change the lives of the parents and the children to the best. However, some parents are not doing the best job. Due to their apathy, some parents act in an irresponsible way with their children, which usually results in devastated children. So, there are several parents that raise their children in a violent way.

     One type of bad parents is the uncaring parents that do not pay attention to anything regarding their children. These parents are the ones who  look like strangers with their children; they prevent love and affection to their children and do not share good things with them. For instance, if their daughter is going to attend and represent in a play or theatre, they will not consider  watching her play. They also give no time to listen to their children and usually try to shut them up  because those parents are so busy with other stuff and are not ready to be close friends to their children. Another thing that they do is not controlling their temper and wears the state of being angry all the time, which makes the children afraid and hesitated to face their parents and discuss problems with them. Consequently, if a kid is facing a conflict in his school, for example, not having friends or his peers are making jokes on him, he will not be able to tell his parents and thus he will be personally harmed.

      Another type of parents is those who do not praise their children. They always direct bad complains to their children and never let them feel that they did something good.  Also, they tend to marginalize every single act done by their kids and thus breaking up their self-confidence.  Those parents are bad enough to cause serious psychological problems to their children. For example, if the kid solved a mathematical problem wrong in the first time his mother will not wait to let him understand and resolve it again but she’ll start shouting on him. Also, this could happen in front of his friends or peers. Another example is that a father one day mocked his child for the reason of being left-handed and even forced him to use his right hand, which is so difficult for the child but he is obliged to do it.

    One more type of bad parents and the most dangerous one are those who  strike and hit their kids violently. The main response for anything that their children do is “hitting them”. So, if their child says something wrong or tried to do a bad thing they usually act back with violence. For instance, a child once a time tried to hold the knife and play with it, instead of taking the knife from him and trying to inform the kid that this is dangerous and you are not allowed to play with it, they immediately take the knife and slap their child, same thing they do if their child tried to write on the wall or damage a game. This could result in having a damaged-personality children on one hand, and very violent children on the other hand.   

           

    Parenting is an important task and should be held accurately because it will lead to the production of the new generation. So, being a good parent will result in a well-developed generation and being a bad parent will develop a bad generation.  Bad parents are also divided into many types. So what are the steps that should be taken to ensure that  parents be responsible? Should they be trained,  given some advice, or motivated? Should parents be forced to stop this abuse by setting some rules and restrictions?

        

On Merciless Parents by Issa K.

    Parents have a huge impact when it comes to raising their child. They can either be a role model of respect and good behavior or they can turn out to be the child’s worst nightmare and tend to be merciless. Several factors affect the way parents treat their child. Some of which depend on the environment the parents live in and have been raised, the ability of understanding between them both, and their mindset regarding gender equality and emotions.

    The environment plays a big impact on the parent’s lives. This impact will be shown when they have their first born. It depends on the background and how the parents themselves were raised and from where they came from. If one parent was raised by strict rules and regulations and was abused physically and verbally when he made a mistake, then this type of dictatorship and way behavior will be reflected on the child. Newly parents have no experience in raising a child, thus they tend to use the same techniques they were raised by; thinking that it’s the best and proper way.

    Understanding is the most important of all factors. Before marriage, the couple might not have difficulties in understanding one another. However, once they get married and have their child, understanding becomes more difficult. Each parent thinks that his own way is the best way to raise the child, thus it will result in a conflict that will lead to endless fights. The child becomes a scapegoat; whenever the parents fight, one of them can use the child to burst their anger. Having a lenient parent versus a strict parent can also cause trouble that will result in more punishments from the strict parent on the child.

    The parent’s mindset can also be an obstacle.  If both or one of them prefers a specific gender such as a boy child than a girl child, then having children will result in inequality. The boys will get special treatment more than the girls. Some parents may place restrictions and rules on toward a specific gender and may give absolute freedom for the other. When the child realizes how unimportant he is or doesn’t get the emotional support and supervision that he needs, he will expose himself towards some serious dangers such as drugs and alcohol.

    Parents try to punish their children when they are doing something wrong and to avoid spoiling the child, but these attempts will increase to produce physical harm to the child. Using violence will never solve the problem; it will make it harder and have long effects on the child. Mercy is bliss; we all deserve to be treated and raised based on it. When will we reach the day where this bliss will be applied? 

                                                                

                                       On Merciless Parents by Hussein A.

    In today’s world, children seem to have many different phobias. Receiving a beating from parents makes children feel worthless and ashamed of themselves. Hence, the main phobia is being beaten; especially if the beating is done by ruthless parents. The primary reason that parents beat their children is if they are not performing well academically. Some parents are merciless because they believe that beating their children teaches them a lesson. Other parents do it because they always want to feel superior and in control. 

    When a child does not perform well on a test, the quickest assumption is that the child does not appreciate all the money that parents invest in the child’s education. Some parents take it personally and feel that beating a child will force them to improve their academic performance. But, be careful, this could lead to even worse academic performances as the child will always be under pressure.

    Fierce parents lose their tempers quickly. Having a good understanding with parents is essential and reduces the chances of receiving beatings. If there is a solid understanding between parents and children, the beatings will decrease. If children know what is right, wrong and expected of them, they will not need to experience harsh beatings in order to “learn lessons.” Upon being asked, “Why did you beat your child so brutally?”, many parents reply “to teach him/her a lesson that they will never forget.”

    One of the things that infuriates a parent is when a child breaks or bends the rules that they have set. With this, parents feel that they have been belittled. In a bid to “show who is boss” and regain superiority over their children, parents opt to beat their children in order to remind them of who is in control and who sets the rules. Many parents claim that if a rule is broken once, it will continue to be broken if it goes unpunished.

    To conclude, ruthless parents will usually beat their children in order to state a point. They feel that this is the right way and will gradually force their child to change for the better. However, beatings do not always deliver the intended message.