On Merciless Parents by Issa K.

    Parents have a huge impact when it comes to raising their child. They can either be a role model of respect and good behavior or they can turn out to be the child’s worst nightmare and tend to be merciless. Several factors affect the way parents treat their child. Some of which depend on the environment the parents live in and have been raised, the ability of understanding between them both, and their mindset regarding gender equality and emotions.

    The environment plays a big impact on the parent’s lives. This impact will be shown when they have their first born. It depends on the background and how the parents themselves were raised and from where they came from. If one parent was raised by strict rules and regulations and was abused physically and verbally when he made a mistake, then this type of dictatorship and way behavior will be reflected on the child. Newly parents have no experience in raising a child, thus they tend to use the same techniques they were raised by; thinking that it’s the best and proper way.

    Understanding is the most important of all factors. Before marriage, the couple might not have difficulties in understanding one another. However, once they get married and have their child, understanding becomes more difficult. Each parent thinks that his own way is the best way to raise the child, thus it will result in a conflict that will lead to endless fights. The child becomes a scapegoat; whenever the parents fight, one of them can use the child to burst their anger. Having a lenient parent versus a strict parent can also cause trouble that will result in more punishments from the strict parent on the child.

    The parent’s mindset can also be an obstacle.  If both or one of them prefers a specific gender such as a boy child than a girl child, then having children will result in inequality. The boys will get special treatment more than the girls. Some parents may place restrictions and rules on toward a specific gender and may give absolute freedom for the other. When the child realizes how unimportant he is or doesn’t get the emotional support and supervision that he needs, he will expose himself towards some serious dangers such as drugs and alcohol.

    Parents try to punish their children when they are doing something wrong and to avoid spoiling the child, but these attempts will increase to produce physical harm to the child. Using violence will never solve the problem; it will make it harder and have long effects on the child. Mercy is bliss; we all deserve to be treated and raised based on it. When will we reach the day where this bliss will be applied?